How not to lose yourself after becoming a mum
When you’re so caught up in your family’s well-being, it’s almost too easy to let slip of the fact that you’re an incredible individual first before the responsibilities of life set in. Here are some ways to reclaim your pre-pregnancy identity and redefine yourself as someone who also relishes being a mother.
Too many new mums forget to do this, and we don’t blame you. But it’s so important to carve out precious time just for yourself. Feeling lost and guilty without baby in your arms? Take the opportunity to try something new for the very first time: visit a museum, meditate, or even pick up a new language. Whatever, it doesn’t matter. Because when you take time out of chaos to connect with yourself, you’re taking time to realign and refresh your mind; so you can return to your family rejuvenated and ready for more1.
Hang out with other mums. But don’t forget your non-mum friends too
It’s all too tempting to share experiences with other mums who are in the same stage of life, but let’s not forget that your adult brain needs stimulation too. Gather your non-mum girlfriends and go shopping for a new wardrobe1. Indulge in kid-free conversations over tea. Catch up on gossip while you were away from the office. Enjoy the things you used to do before baby entered the picture.
Spend quality time with your spouse
Before baby, there was hubby. Now that your family’s grown and roles have clearly changed, it’s vital that both of you make a conscious effort to continue nurturing your relationship as a couple2. Granted that there will be fewer opportunities for couple-time, taking the moment to share a few quick kisses and hugs a day shows you appreciate and care for each other. Together with your husband, agree to set aside time at least once a week to go on a date or talk about your feelings, goals and dreams – just as you did before baby came along. This is also a great time to share your thoughts on the life you’re building together. Being able to communicate constantly and openly will only strengthen your resolve for the future.
Learning how not to lose your identity as a mother should start even before baby pops out. For example, if you’ve been keeping to a fitness regime, find out what are the exercises you can still safely do for each trimester. Fancy yourself a fashionista? Work out what are the pieces you need to dress stylishly all nine months. With just a bit of creativity and sensibility, your pregnancy can be a truly special and fun time to remember in your life. For other great ideas, check out the rest of the articles here with more helpful tips and advice for expecting mums.
Disclaimer: Breast feeding is the best nutrition for healthy growth and development of babies.